Understanding Men’s Grief: A counsellor’s perspective

Scott Reeve is a highly experienced counsellor with over twelve years in practice, nine of which have been spent supporting families in hospice care. Over the course of his work, Scott has come to recognise a powerful and often overlooked reality: many men experience complex, deeply personal grief journeys that can be missed during the wider process of family bereavement support.

Through years of clinical experience and dedicated research into men’s bereavement, Scott brings valuable insight into the emotional landscapes that men navigate after loss. He explores the often hidden tension that many men carry, a struggle between the need for support and the uncertainty of how to ask for it.

Central to this is what Scott refers to as “the double bind.” Men are frequently caught between two opposing forces. On one side, an outdated but still internalised belief that they should stay strong and suppress emotion. On the other, a growing cultural message encouraging openness and vulnerability. The result is a confusing and isolating experience where men feel both pulled to express and pressured to remain composed.

This conversation touches on many aspects of grief, from isolation and silence to remembrance and ritual. What emerges clearly is the idea that there is no singular way to grieve. For some, healing might come through quiet reflection or physical activity. For others, it may involve therapy, journaling, or small, meaningful daily rituals to honour a loved one.

Whether you are grieving yourself or supporting someone who is, this video offers a gentle, informed voice that validates a wide range of experiences. It does not prescribe a method. Instead, it reminds us that all grief is valid, and must be met with compassion, patience and a readiness to support. 

 You can find more information about Scott Reeve’s work here

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